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Helllllooooo!!!!

Since it has been almost a year since blogging, let me share some things with you...

Antonio is now in 4th grade and I am still regularly volunteering at his school but on strict orders from him that I do not kiss or hug him at school and not tell him I love him out loud because apparently it embarrasses him.

Fine, geez...

Yes, I respect that because when at school I always see him, everyone knows me and I tend to gain insight when there so it is still in my benefit to be there. Ha, jokes on you kid. ☺

He officially was diagnosed with ADHD, Inattentive Type. Basically, it is incredibly hard for him to focus without being distracted and he gets overwhelmed when given to many directions at once. There are many other things but none of them would be obvious to most. He is a great kid and I am still immensely proud of him. He has an enormous heart, and still wears that enormous heart on his finger tips. ❤

My mental health has improved. I am currently on medication to make my anxiety and depression manageable and was actually able to enjoy the holidays without a lot of anxiety. Yay! However, because of an original medication I tried, I have gained a large amount of weight in a short amount of time. I have since changed the meds and will be trying to loose most of that weight this year. I am to the point where I am uncomfortable in my own skin.

I decided to leave Lularoe over the Summer. It began to consume my life in ways that were not good. I was loosing time with Antonio when more time with him was the main reason we decided to have me stay home. The decision was hard but once made, a weight was lifted and I knew it was the right choice.

I am currently a Color Street Stylist and love it. I started Color Street in the spring and found it was much easier than Lularoe. There is a lot less time required to be successful. I have gained so much success with it too, both professionally and personally. If you are interested in a free sample let me know and I'll send you one. Yes, completely free.

Lilly, our rescue dog is thriving. She has been with us just over a year now and is such a perfect fit with our family and we cannot imagine life without her. She is incredibly protective of us and still does not like men. Antonio's best buddy is about the only person she doesn't constantly bark at.


xo,

Keep your promises

Happy New Year!

Once again I have not made a resolution for the new year. I stopped doing that years ago and decided to choose a word or phrase of the year instead.

Last year it was Live in the Present.

I'm not sure how much I really did that. I found myself constantly looking back with doubt and worrying about the future. I still do that, but have come to realize I probably always will thanks to my depression and anxiety.

This year?

Keep your Promises

Like most of you, I read Girl, Wash your Face and was a moved motivated by it.  Rachel Hollis, the author, spoke to me in a way no other author/speaker has. There was something about her honestly and her tell it like it is way that spoke to me. I had many Ah ha!, or maybe more of, huh?! moments, but this one has stayed me.

A few months ago after I was out to dinner with my closest girlfriend which was an impromptu happy hour that turned into an impromptu dinner and ended up going later than any of us anticipated, I went downstairs to the basement where our old treadmill is hidden and ran a few miles. I put the evidence of that workout on Snapchat, and later my girlfriend saw it and sent me a text. “You worked out after dinner? What in the world?”
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I wrote back, “Yes, because I planned on doing it and didn’t want to cancel.”
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“Couldn’t you just postpone until tomorrow?” She was genuinely perplexed.
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“No, because I made a promise to myself and I don’t break those, not ever.”
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“Ugh," she typed back. "I’m the FIRST person I break a promise to.”
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She’s not the only one. I used to do that all the time until I realized how hard I was fighting to keep my word to other people while quickly canceling on myself. I’ll work out tomorrow became I’m not working out anytime soon—because honestly, if you really cared about that commitment, you’d do it when you said you would. What if you had a friend who constantly flaked on you? What if every other time you made plans she decided not to show up? Or what if a friend from work was constantly starting something new? Every three Mondays she announced a new diet or goal and then two weeks later it just ended?
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Y’all, would you respect her? This woman who starts and stops over and over again? Would you count on the friend who keeps blowing you off for stupid reasons? Would you trust them when they committed to something?
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No.
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No way. And that level of distrust and apprehension applies to you too. Your subconscious knows that you, yourself, cannot be trusted after breaking so many plans and giving up on so many goals.
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When you really want something, you will find a way. When you don’t really want something, you’ll find an excuse. I know that blowing off a workout, a date, an afternoon to organize your closet, or some previous commitment to yourself doesn’t seem like a big deal—but it is. It’s a really big deal. Our words have power, but our actions shape our lives. 

-Excerpt from the chapter in my new book Girl, Wash Your Face about breaking promises to yourself

Yes!! After reading that I was left with a big, "Whoa, she has a point". I am always breaking promises to myself and rarely breaking promises to others. Partly because of my horrible worrying obsession of what others think of me. 

Its a really problem of mine. I constantly worrying what others will think about me, what I say and don't say, do and don't do etc. It's awful. My therapist has tried hard to get me to stop worrying but it's second nature.

I digress. 

I feel like I have been working on me for so long now. But I am happy to say that little by little things are getting better. ☺ This year I plan on keeping my promises to myself and remembering that my wellbeing is worth it. 

And so is yours. ❤